As we look at Dreaming a New Story in our lives, we are reminded of how our teachers suggested looking at our relationships–how we play together–and how all of us have this tiny toddler inside us who has these strange habits…
The Toddler’s Law
If it’s mine it’s mine,
if it’s yours it’s mine,
if I like it is mine,
if I can take it from you it is mine,
if I am playing with something ALL of the pieces are mine,
if I think it is mine it is,
if I saw it first it’s mine,
if I had it then put it down it is still mine,
if you had it then you put it down it is now mine,
if it looks like the one I have at home it is mine.
If it is broken it is yours.
from Murphy’s Laws Site
Our teachers said if you want to get past the story of feeling like a victim, you have to acknowledge the inner toddler–and how it might be trying to “drive the car” so to speak in your collaborations. They would ask: Have you soothed your toddler today, and let him or her know that the adult you, with a much more highly developed prefrontal cortex, is now in charge of your communications, your interactions, your transactions, your relationships–your heart?
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